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99. From Betrayal to Rebirth: Healing After Infidelity with Lora Cheadle

November 24, 2025 • Kristin Birdwell • Season 4 • Episode 13

In this episode, I sit down with Lora Cheadle, former attorney turned betrayal recovery coach, somatic therapist, intuitive channel, and author of FLAUNT! and It’s Not Burnout, It’s Betrayal.

And this conversation goes everywhere: infidelity, identity collapse, somatic grief, self-abandonment, the gift inside the rupture, spiritual downloads, sacred travel, Egypt codes, plant medicine, and the radical art of rebuilding your truth from the inside out.

Lora shares the story of discovering her husband’s 15-year, multi-partner affair… and how it became the catalyst for BOTH of them to dismantle old identities, release generational trauma, and rebuild a marriage on truth instead of performance.

Timestamps:
00:00 – What’s turning Lora on in life
01:05 – Expectation vs. desire: how your inner state shapes your reality
03:00 – Lora’s transition from attorney → burnout → betrayal coach
04:20 – The moment she discovered a 15-year affair
05:30 – Rebuilding identity after betrayal & staying in the marriage
06:30 – The REAL first steps after discovering infidelity
07:50 – Blame, shame, shock, & why you must stop before you act
08:40 – Self-betrayal, “good girl” conditioning & performance mode
09:40 – Knowing something vs. embodying it
11:55 – Reawakening intuition, somatics, & energy healing
13:30 – Did we choose our lessons? The game board of life
14:20 – The Librarians: Lora’s channeled guides & Akashic lessons
16:00 – Understanding your soul story like a TV series
17:20 – Co-creating your reality with cosmic free will
19:00 – The gifts inside betrayal (for both partners)
22:00 – Rebuilding authentic relationships without the masks
23:40 – The FLAUNT! Framework (Find your Fetish → Trust your Truth)
26:00 – How to accept unconditionally without sacrificing yourself
27:20 – Navigating the non-linear nature of healing
28:30 – Dark night of the ego vs dark night of the soul
29:30 – How to rebuild self-trust after collapse
31:45 – Creating spaciousness to receive guidance
33:00 – Letting yourself evolve + writing in cycles
38:40 – Sacred travel: Egypt, Sekhmet, Dendera & receiving codes
40:20 – Mystical experiences + light language activation
43:00 – Plant medicine journeys (San Pedro) & consciousness work
45:00 – Meditation styles for ADHD, anxious, or embodied minds
46:20 – Holding compassion when you’ve been the betrayer too
47:30 – What is truly “profane”?
48:15 – Life as an experiment + playing with the messiness

Connect with Lora:
Website - https://loracheadle.com/
Download Lora’s Betrayal Recovery Guide: betrayalrecoveryguide.com

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