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83. How to Find Balance, Heal, & Trust Your Intuition | Josh Brinkman on Happiness & Self-Growth

July 21, 2025 • Kristin Birdwell • Season 3 • Episode 20

What happens when you mix East Texas charm, soulful wisdom, and a baddie on a mission to stay balanced in a chaotic world? You get this heart-opening convo with Josh Brinkman.

We explore it all from healing and happiness to the woo-woo wonder of soul contracts and full moon energy spikes.

In this episode, we talk…
✦ What balance really looks like in messy, magical real life
✦ How your words impact water, your body, and your beliefs
✦ Turning pain into rocket fuel and heartbreak into growth
✦ Soul contracts, déjà vu, and angel kisses from beyond
✦ Coming out stories, strong moms, and Bible Belt resilience
✦ Masculine vs feminine energy (and how to protect your soft center)
✦ Plus: A juicy lightning round of questions you didn’t know you needed.

Mentioned in the Pod:
Emoto Water Experiments
"You Are The Placebo" by Dr. Joe Dispenza

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Kristin (00:00.162)
Welcome back to Sex, Drugs, and Soul. We're in for a special treat today. We have another 903 in the house, another East Texan here to give us some wisdom and insight into some light topics such as balance and happiness. I'm like, let's tackle it. Say what? I said, let's tackle it.

So yeah, definitely. I mean, I've had so many signs from strangers, like I was telling you, finding true happiness and happiness comes with finding the balance. You want to enjoy a nice cheat meal here after a long day, but then detox the other few days. Drink here, don't drink there, and go.

balls to wall party and then go home and relax. know, just finding the balance and you know, spending here and then saving there. It's just truly finding that good middle ground.

First off, I totally forgot to say your name. I was like, fuck. Josh Brinkman. Welcome. Thank you. I know. I agree about finding balance. Although whenever that concept was first introduced to me, I was like, what is that? I think my stepdad back in the day was like, you'll learn to listen to your inner guide about balance. You'll feel when you're off one way or the other. I'm like, what is he talking about? Will I ever? But I think there is an inner, I don't know if it's an inner scale or.

Thanks for having me.

Kristin (01:32.49)
weight thing where I can tell when I've like leaned too far one way or like I've been too much in like the going, going, going and not enough of like just like the being or like hanging out horizontal time. How did you like come to be with balance or like was there any like specific catalysts that spurred your balance insights would be like, hey, I reorganize some things or.

So we all have our storms that we go through and storms always pass no matter what you're going through. They do pass and then you get to that point where it's just like it is what it is. You if it's out of your control, what else am I gonna do about it besides stress? And then so stress is gonna wear down on your immune system, you know, your looks, your productivity, your overall.

you know, areas of life. And so you just got to get to that it is what it is and whatever happens happens. And then it just made me realize like I have to find a balance and you know.

sounds like a point of acceptance too. It's like, okay, here's the truth of the moment. Doesn't mean that it's gonna be like the truth of end all days for those to come. But it's like, okay, I accept this where it is, this storm and ride it out, throw on my life jacket maybe. Literally, yeah. And then the choppy water will turn to smooth. As you're speaking about that, just revisited this little booklet that my dad gave me of like little insights. And one of them was like, don't sweat the small stuff.

And he was like, I don't know where I got that, it just kind of stuck. I've definitely not always followed that advice, but yeah, it's been interesting to find, you know, and maybe there's been times too in my life where, okay, in this section, I've got to be more, make more appointments or be more like active or have like this burst of, you know, creativity, but then there's definitely going to be a retreat time or like more soother sailing.

Josh Brinkman (03:30.754)
And a lot of the struggles that we have in our life are so small compared to our like overall, you know, plan in life, you know, and it's just a short amount of time. And, you know, just recognizing that and, you know, checking yourself mentally and saying like, I am gonna get through this and, you know, days are ahead. And you just always have to have a more optimistic mindset. And...

It kind of goes with studies that you can look up with plants or water. You're negatively to a plant, it's going to wilt. If you talk positive to a plant, it's going to thrive and flourish. Same goes with water. If you're talking negatively to water, there's more positive. Fact check me on this, but it's more positive ions are positively charged compared to the one you're talking negatively to and it's negatively charged.

I believe that. I sing to my plants. I give them my moon blood. I do all kinds of...

And there are studies done, you know, and everyone, you know, can look this up. And so, like, if you're talking negatively to yourself, it's gonna start, like, taking away, taxing you, draining you. But, like, you know, you can definitely tell those who speak positive themselves, they just, their light is different. And their walk is more graceful and kind of just gliding through life a little bit more smooth.

I like that in kind of thinking about, it reminds me of those experiments and I think it was like, I'll have to find it and put it in the show notes. But yeah, those experiments where they froze water by and like, have you seen those where like they were different freeze frames of water and like people with joy or gratitude and it was like these beautiful crystalline images. But if it was like negative words or harsh music, it was like, you know.

Josh Brinkman (05:21.112)
Yes. I've heard of something like that.

And then if we think about how much water we are and then the conversations that we have with ourselves, I think that's super kind of a cool like correlation for the dots connect.

I don't want to get off on a rabbit trail, but you speak. You speaking about that about us being, so we are like 80 % water. You know, during full moons, I always tell people to hydrate because, you know, it's well known that the tides change with the full moon. And so, you know, working in prison and also knowing people that have worked in medical fields or medics.

we can go, we can-

Josh Brinkman (06:05.886)
Even nursing homes, they notice it usually happens in threes, but something during the full moon happens with people either suicides or some, you know, life change and death in general. But, you know, we're 80 % water. The earth is 80 % water. So, you know, if it's affecting the tides, how is it affecting us when we're dehydrated?

Oh, no, my dad was a truck driver. He used to say that people drove crazier on the full moon. And then a paramedic friend of mine, she's like, oh, we get the craziest calls on the full moon. I'm curious now. I'm like, since you mentioned that you work at a prison, why I do have an ex there. I like, oh, great. yeah, so there's been like more, is there hyperactivity or more like distress during a full moon or more ruckus?

Lovely.

Josh Brinkman (06:54.766)
It's more of a rush of patient care. okay. In the medic field, they said they have a lot of more traffic accidents than there's the hospitals and they're just flooded with people in the emergency room. It just varies. Then with the inmates, there's just a little bit more crazy.

It's okay. I don't think I'm on the legal podcast for the iPad. I think I get barred for it because I have sex in the title or something. So they won't hear you. That's what I'm getting at. You can speak freely. Yeah. No, it's interesting. So happiness too. I had someone kind of like shifting gears a little bit. I want to circle back to the happiness that you spoke of.

do want to say that's like, makes you happy won't necessarily make me happy or what makes. And I had an addiction medicine specialist on a couple of weeks ago and he had brought up the point, which I loved. He's like, we're really good at picking out the moments in life where, okay, we've got a bad picker or we're doing this or doing this. He's like, but what about the times when we're happy and doing a personal inventory on those and like finding the commonality of like, what are the things that brings us joy or lights us up? And then like weaving those more into our day to day.

And then there's definitely, instead of just like relying, I feel like on what we're told or sold to be happy, because I've definitely had like breakdown moments before in closets where I was like, okay, I thought all this stuff was gonna make me happy and it didn't, so now what? And like getting back to the core of like, okay, what does Kristen like? Have you had any like wrestling moments with happiness or did you have like a good solid foundation growing up that like helped instill certain like insights or wisdom?

I'm like, how did you come to be with like certain, you know, different insights or knowledge or what do you think helped formulate some of that?

Josh Brinkman (09:00.76)
surroundings, upbringing. had a really strong mom. She still is super strong. And she just instilled a lot of value in me without, you know, pushing it down my throat. But, you know, also life experiences on my own, you know, we are all on our own individual journeys and we have our own experiences and it's just a matter of turning those negatives into a positive.

when I was in a negative situation or I was dealing with some, you know, troublesome time, whether personal through figuring out my purpose in life or through an ex, I always told myself to get out of the rut that I am going through this to help someone else get through it better and easier. And that has held true every single time. And there was one guy specifically and

He was like my little mini me. And we worked together at a tea shop and he was just coming out and he was having a problem with a straight guy. And I was like, all right, shed your tears, feel the emotions, process it and move on. And I was like, cause life is too short and there are plenty of people out there. I remember, you know, you're a little baddie. So let's get with it.

When in doubt, remember your buddy.

this day he's like I'm so thankful for you he's like I really just I know who I am and he's like I'm that bit yeah

Kristin (10:39.992)
Yeah, instead of clinging to like that, you know, moment of strife, it's like, it's like a good way to check you down. Yeah, I definitely have like had a foundation or the insight as far as, even if I can't see it in that moment, or I'm like, being challenged or it's strife or it's grief or whatever it is. It's like, okay, I know that at some point.

I'll be able to say, okay, this is how this worked for me, or I'll assign that meaning, or I'll find the silver lining of the cloud. And I love what you two said about being able to help walk someone through a scenario, through a path that you've walked, help take off some of the load of their shoulders. Was that modeled for you through other people, doing something similar? I know my mom had a real giving heart, or she would do certain things.

or share different insights or stories that may help show a way. So I didn't know if that was part of your journey or not.

Mom is always, I mean, I give a lot of credit to her. was raised by her and she just is a caring, kind-hearted person and always thinks of others. So I know that's where it came from. And, you know, there've been many situations where I put my feelings aside. you know, I'm letting someone else feel. but you know, you have to check yourself because, you know, you got to make you a priority as well. You're.

your emotions, they count and it goes in there with that balance.

Kristin (12:16.206)
I can definitely have some emotional thunderstorms. Yeah, now I'm learning just like ride that, you emotional wave and then like, okay. But yeah, on the way here, I kind of thought similar to what you're saying about like the optimism and like keeping that track of mind. I played this song that I love playing, Lovely Day. And I'm like, it's to me, it's like my declaration or proclamation. like, today is going to be a lovely day. And so it's like, okay, then and then.

how the world shows me how it's gonna surprise and delight. That's out of my hands, but I feel like if I start the day or a session or whatever it is, like with that, it's like I'm looking through that belief window and lens. So it's like, I'll find the reinforcement for it.

It's, I mean, it goes with manifesting, speaking your life into existence. you know, you're speaking at whether it's negative or positive. So you speak in a positive, lovely day, it's gonna be a lovely day. You're gonna have some bumps in the road, but overall, you know, you'll get over the hurdles.

What are some of your manifestation hacks or tips or tricks?

I really, I have good intent always. I never have ill intent. Even if I'm coming off with a cold, you know, hard shell, I have good intent and I just, I know I deserve it. And that's where, you know, manifesting comes into play and it's, it already exists. You you deserve it and you're not doing anyone wrong and you have no ill intent. you know, and meditating and

Josh Brinkman (13:53.524)
visualizing that it's already present in here. So I don't know if I'm allowed to say like, know, Joe Dispenza.

Yeah, love him. Yeah. Daddy dispenser.

Daddy.

I love calling it that. It makes it more personal for me.

He's great and his whole story and his testimony and where he's at now. He's changed in so many lives with his past experience and what he's doing futuristically. Overall, anyone that doesn't know who he is, he was a chiropractor, injured himself in a vehicle accident, said he was never going to walk again.

Josh Brinkman (14:39.948)
the surgeon said that, I think he went to two surgeons and they said that he would never walk again. And he started visualizing and speaking to each part of his spine that was injured that he's healing. And here he is, he's walking around. And I've actually put that into practice with, never say I'm sick, I say I'm healing. because sick is a negative word in your mind, so you're already telling yourself you're sick.

So, you know, with him, I started reading his book, You Are the Placebo, and stunning book. It's great. It's very direct and to the point, easy to read. And it talks about, you know, you need to set a date. Like if you're not feeling well, like on a Tuesday, say like Friday, you know, by midnight, I'm gonna be fully healed.

Every single time it's like worked. And I had a person I used to know that was a customer, somewhere I used to work, and she was not feeling at all well. And I was like, hey, this is gonna sound so cuckoo, but like, please trust me. And she was very open and she was like a coach and super sweet. And I didn't see her until like a month and a half later after she wasn't feeling well. And...

She comes back and she's like, I haven't, I haven't been so waiting to see you. She's like, I did exactly what you said. And within that timeframe, I got better and I just on speaking positive to myself that I'm going to be better. Every cell in my body is healing. And she's like, I tried to my other friend about it and they were like, you know, you're like, cuckoo, cocoa or cocoa puffs. Crazy.

Yeah, I tried to tell my dad that too. I think it definitely takes a willingness to believe and like the intention, the willingness to believe and that sort of thing too.

Josh Brinkman (16:43.682)
Our minds are just super powerful. They're more powerful than we're led to believe. You create the life that you visualize in your head.

Yeah, I had a powerful moment at a little sex magic ritual at a retreat that I was at last week. And it was kind of like about that future vision of myself and visualizing. I was like, oh, I just had this like, was like, oh, I am her. It was just like very cathartic. It was just like beautiful release. I love it. I love visualizing.

I will say like, feel like growing up in the Pawnee woods definitely helped with that because I was always outside or living in my imagination or visualizing, know, yeah, yeah, out in the pasture. I mean, yeah, we were always like hopping either from hay bale to hay bale or hunting, know, dinosaur bones through like discarded cow bones or something like, so I feel like that definitely helped visualize. And I feel like if people aren't,

you know, getting a mental image they could probably journal to about it or like ask themselves questions about the life that they want to lead or the life that their future self is already leading. It's like, okay, then what do you do to meet that person?

Exactly. Like I've read it somewhere and it's like you wouldn't have that in your mind if your future self knew it wasn't already for you. goes something like that and it's so true.

Kristin (18:20.546)
Yeah, I totally believe like our longings or some of our desires or nudges in like present day are like whispers from our future self. I feel that with my book, I was like, God, okay. And so it felt like something that I couldn't not do. It was interesting. And so like sometimes now I'll send little messages back to like, you know, like my early twenties were pretty turbulent for my, you know, or chaotic. And so I'll be like,

Yes.

Kristin (18:50.51)
you make it out of there, little thing, or keep going. And so I love the idea that's like, okay, it's like I specifically had a definitely like low of low point about a decade ago. Actually, for the guy that's in the prison in East Texas, I was interviewed in Detectives and something I was like, okay, so it's like me today that's sending those messages to her, like keep going, like there's a, you know,

light at the end of the, you know, just follow the path, you know, one step in front of the other, one foot in front of the other. But I definitely remember having that moment of just like, fuck. Yeah. What was your first like taste or snippet of Dispenza or Abraham, or like, are you into Abraham Hicks at all? Have you like the Abraham Hicks or, I feel like they're kind of like on the same like,

Abraham Hedges.

Josh Brinkman (19:46.252)
Is that the female?

Mmm, she can all day.

Yeah. I've read a tiny bit into her.

Yeah, what was your gateway drug into that school of thought or believing? I know mine was like the secret back in the day.

was reading resilience, because there was a point where I was going through my dental program and I was like, just getting held back by one little thing, either it was a class that I had missed for pre-reqs for either hygiene or, you know, whatever area I was going for dental, but there was just one setback after the other just randomly. And so I'm like, okay, this is either a sign I'm not supposed to go this direction or, or I don't know.

Josh Brinkman (20:29.614)
And so I started reading that book Resilience and then that just kind of stemmed and I started just reading and I just went to Barnes and Noble. If I've ever had any sort of low point, I usually went to find a book on the area that I had a hard time and started reading. So that just kind of was like a stem to going around to the philosophy section and psychology and.

Yeah, so resilience. there any other like, and you mentioned you are the placebo. Any other favorites that I definitely have a couple that I'm like, you my life is definitely not the same because I read that book.

Alchemist is a really great book, you know, and that's one for every Reddit many times. And it's just a reminder we all have a purpose and it might not go the, you know, direction that we think, this picture perfect way and it's just not. And you can do everything by the books, but it's just, it's not gonna happen that way.

Yeah, I feel like I've had to definitely release like the control aspect or wanting it to look or come in a certain way. And then like, it's a lot, I find less stress, you know, I'm like, okay, I get to allow myself to be surprised. It's like a surrender, like a balance between surrender and like trying to, you know, okay, I think it's gonna come in this way by force of will or something. Yeah, it need like the surrender, I'm like, is so big.

but it's taken a while to just be able to like, take my hands off that.

Josh Brinkman (22:03.436)
Yeah, and it's just a matter of really redirecting any thoughts of negative or detours. And it's just like, know what I deserve and I know what I want and I'm gonna go get it. Mm-hmm. you know.

Yeah, I'm like, it's the, for me, I'm like, okay, how much meditation visualization time do I do? And then also coupled with my actions.

How much healing, frequency, energy, music do I have to listen to? I'm doing all of it. I'm taking my holistic supplements. I'm doing all of it.

And there's a part of me too that just came to a point and I was chatting with someone the other day. I was like, I'm tired of fucking healing. And I mean that in the way that like, there's nothing wrong with me or broken. But I'm okay. I'm totally again, allow insights and awarenesses and growth. And I've just kind of making a shift for myself as like growth over healing for me. I mean, I've had a profound like, what one would say healing journey or personal growth or, know.

development journey, but I guess just like the connotation now that's sitting with me, because I didn't want to look at myself as like a project to fix, more of like a miracle to explore, and it just like, it's like I can breathe a little bit easier and just be within that like

Josh Brinkman (23:29.518)
you're letting go of control.

And it's like, wow, okay.

And that's one thing I tell a lot and I say it even to myself is if it's something out of your control that you stress about, then like, you know, why stress about it?

Yeah, I feel like it's a big illusion in some ways too, is like how we think we can control things and maybe sometimes we can be like things but...

There are some things, but if it's out of your control, like you're just wearing on yourself and, you know, you're doing yourself more harm than good.

Kristin (24:04.115)
Or like that energy that is being expended focusing on that could be freed up to go to something else.

Exactly. then that lower energy, that lower vibration is already setting you back. Always vibe high, always higher energies.

Yeah, you know, I used to think that having like my moments of sadness or grief I was like, oh, I don't know if I want to feel those because I want to be you know, stay up here but it's like I can still feel those and like Go through that and still maintain like a higher frequency or You know be like I think it comes down to intention to Like moving from love or moving from joy or appreciation or gratitude versus like something of a lower

Yeah. Yeah. We agree.

frequency. Yeah. Okay. I'm like, where should we go now?

Josh Brinkman (25:00.846)
We were talking about, you know, growth and I was talking to one of the dentists I work with and she's wanting to, you know, get in the podcast and more of a dental angle and we were talking about how, you know, some people grow and evolve and then some just stay stagnant and they stay the same. She was talking about her late husband and

You know, he was staying exactly the same and she was, you know, growing outside the box of the norm and breaking free from societal norms, which is, you know, huge and especially for growth and experiencing cultures differently and all of that. But she was just saying, I was growing and he was just falling away and that caused, you know, strife and

You know, he ended up passing away, but she's, you know, she's just growing and she's able to see things just differently now.

Do you think that if he hadn't have passed away, would they have died in the, would their relationship have died in a different way? Like if some, if one person in a relationship is growing and evolving and then the other person is staying stagnant or not, do you come like to a crossroads? Like I felt that in like at least one relationship.

That's how it's come across. It happens with friends, not even just intimate relationship partners, but I've been saying that I thought I'd have friends for all my life. Then all of a sudden, it's just like a light switches and we go our different directions. Some of it is we just grow apart like we were talking about earlier. Then some of it,

Kristin (26:35.214)
I was curious

Josh Brinkman (27:00.034)
there was some tension and we just went our ways. But, you know, no one's ours. You know, we selfishly think that, we selfishly think that, you know, these people will never do us wrong or they're never gonna, you go away. But that goes along with unhealthy attachments. detachment was just something I learned greatly with a guy that I had interested in with prior

That's a good point.

Josh Brinkman (27:29.986)
And I'm like, no, this is like not a healthy attachment. I have to separate that. if people can get a grasp on that, that like no one is ours, not a thing is ours, we can lose anything any minute. That's another huge growth. And it gets rid of that expectation too that will disappoint us.

That's a good point. It's like each person is their own individual, like sovereign being. And so they could at any point make another decision and like veer away like the detachment. definitely had some of my biggest drives have been with attachment or for me, physical attachment as it pertains like when someone dies.

Like I, or like that, that longing to like hold or touch or, you know, a loved one that passes on has probably like been like one of the harder attachments for me. Yeah, I would definitely say that. I mean, like even though I believe that my relationship with my biological dad has grown in tremendous ways beyond his death, it's still, I still have those moments where like, God, I wanna hug.

I long for that physical comfort. So that's definitely been probably one of the more challenging detachment pieces.

Ever in those moments, do you ever, you you're thinking that, you're like, God, I want in this moment this. But do you ever get just like this rush of a feeling or do you get like a wind blow against you or you get like a sign and it's just like, that's, that may not be what I want physically, you know, but like there it is, it just hit me in it. There was even a small comfort.

Kristin (29:12.526)
I definitely get signs. We have a specific sign that now I'm like, okay, every time I hear this band, I know you're with me. So I'll hear it at weird times. I'll be like walking through Target. I'm like, why is Creedence Clearwater playing in Target right now? It just feels like, okay, you're telling me that I'm here. I just love that. Do you get signs from or lean into signs?

I'll see, you know, we all talk about the angel numbers or numbers in general and some of the numbers, like let's say like 555, that's supposed to signify change. There'll be times I'll, you know, just be thinking like, God, just, I need something different or, you know, I'm thinking something in that specific moment. And then let's say like that number pops up and it's like, okay, change is possibly coming or, know, something random like that.

You know, I'm just, I say open and it's just, those are kind of little, I guess you'd say angel kisses.

love that. I love that term. I'm plagiarize that. Angel kisses. And being a baddie. Being a baddie with my angel kisses. Yeah, I do. I feel like those, I used to say like links from the universe, but I love angel kisses. They can kiss me. That's why I like recording here too. Every time I put in the address, it's like...

I almost texted you,

Kristin (30:42.862)
I found the studio, I was like, okay, that's a sign that that's the one. I'm like, totally. And I love looking for them. I'm that puts a little joy in my step, then I'm gonna keep on looking for those signs or the angel kisses and follow what's lighting me up.

It's like too, you know, like, yeah, what am I feeling? Or if you're just not even, if you're driving and not really thinking anything, but then you see just a random number, it's like, okay, well, what am I feeling in this moment? And it just gives us a self-check.

Yeah, sometimes I'm like, what are you trying to tell me?

We all need to check ourselves, you know?

I'm like, what are you trying to tell me? Give me signs about? I look down and I'm like looking at some of the questions that I have crafted or seeing what we've gone over or not. And if there's anything that's calling to you, just feel free to. I like this. This question, because I kind of feel like it might be a combo about happiness.

Kristin (31:47.286)
It says, happiness, or do you think happiness is a feeling, a choice, a practice, or a sweet little combination of all three of those? Yeah.

think it's all of it. You know, you, no matter what your circumstance, you know, choose the optimistic route, because you'll go farther. it's hard. mean, like, I've told it to myself, I've told it to, you know, others in my surrounding, but practicing it and, you know, using it, it'll get you far.

Yeah. And I think over time it becomes like a little bit easier to do. It's like getting those new neural pathways formed or something. Like at first you'll want to knee-jerkingly react or deviate to one, but you just got to get put in the reps of the other. And then finally, I think one day it'll just be like a natural group that you fall into.

and quit comparing yourself to other people's lives. That is a happiness killer and so many people do that. Everyone just has their own unique life and their purpose here and people need to recognize that. And I had read something somewhere else and it was saying, there is one thing that won't be done if you weren't here.

That's why they're feeding your dog. It gives me chills talking about. That's like feeding your dog or, you know, there's just, there's something that needs to be done by you. So, you know, if you ever feel like giving up, it's, it's truly not over. Someone, something needs you.

Kristin (33:29.708)
And maybe even like the comeback story out of that for sure. Yeah, ugh.

Mm-hmm.

Kristin (33:38.337)
I'm thinking of my little Boudreaux. I'm like, one day I hope that he's calm enough and chill enough to be able to like come in here and like hang out. And like, you know, just like be my little show dog or something. Yeah, no, I know there's definitely been like last summer I was going through, having some interesting thoughts, right? And so I had to like check myself and I was like, okay, like.

emergency break, like, and fill that, fill into that. But I love also what you said about not comparing ourselves to one another, because I feel like it's so easy to do with like Instagram or Facebook or that sort of thing, like the highlight reel. And I definitely kind of felt a little bit of that at a recent gathering. I went into something as like a young, like one of the youngest people there. And so was like, is this like reverse ageism?

You know, I'm like, what is this? Because I did feel like a little, I don't know if it was judgment or just maybe projections about being younger or being older or like that sort of thing. And so, yeah, I do think there's a lot of truth to that quote. It's like comparison is a thief of joy.

And age is just a number. We're all going the same direction.

and we're all at different paces. Like I have friends that I wouldn't have thought would have ever gotten married or had kids. And then there's some that are still single and there's no comparison. Everyone just has their own timeline. Yeah, and like you just, just so many people get wrapped up in, I should be there.

Kristin (35:22.474)
and unique journey.

Josh Brinkman (35:30.734)
I'm this age and I need to be, I've had, need to have kids by now, I need to get married, I need to be making this amount of money, I need to have this house. But, know, whatever you don't have or if it hasn't happened yet, you just need to take it as like, I'm being protected from this right now. It's not time and, you know, it'll happen when it's supposed to.

Yeah, I get in that nervous system ready to allow it in. definitely sometimes I whenever I have like shit on my to-do list or I call it my get to-do list, my creative get to-do list and our creative play. I like saying play instead of work, our contribution. But sometimes when I start feeling a little overwhelmed because I'm like if there's a lot of things on there, I'm like the world still keep turning if I don't do.

any of this shit. But it's always just like a good check for me and like a good like, okay, I can actually just take a deep breath right now and do one or two of those things. I don't have to like have, you know, put the pressure on me to do more than. Right. Yeah, I'm like one thing at a time. That's all I can do anyway.

Like you said, the world is gonna keep turning. years from now, at least your energy was here to leave a good impact.

Do you think that we chose to come here at this time?

Josh Brinkman (36:58.03)
I mean, that's a whole other topic, but I mean, we can dive into it.

Well, yeah, because I mean, I do. There's like a...

We're gonna talk about soul contracts.

Let's go there. I'm open to it. I totally think that we chose to come in, chose our parents, chose some of the, like with my stepdad, one of the biggest strife of my life, also one of the biggest gifts. But I feel like we made a sole agreement and contract for the impacts to formulate me in a certain way so that through the expression of me, I'd have a higher healing for all or contribution. And so I definitely believe in sole contracts or agreements.

I've read into it. am very open to many beliefs and, you know, I love reading about different religions and how different people.

Josh Brinkman (37:50.402)
go about their belief systems.

I like that, I like that whole idea of, you know, we make these soul contracts and it goes into deja vu for me. So when I think of a soul contract, think of, okay, we have these deja vu moments and it's like, we're all like, it's weird. It's like, where am I? And I've seen this before, but the best way I can put like deja vu to where it makes sense as a whole,

when you go watch a movie for the first time in the theater and you remember bits and pieces. So then, you know, in your soul contract, you've seen your whole life, you see who you're gonna impact the whole wrap up of this life. And it's like, okay, I can, I definitely can handle that life. And then you go hit in the real world and

you get these little snippets each time and it's like, my gosh, I've seen this before. And every time I have those moments, I'm like, I've seen this, I gotta keep going. And, you know, so that's how I kind of like relate that to like the soul contract. you know, when they say like you have a kid, it's not for a mistake reason, you know, whether good or bad, it's part of that duo of

you know, helping each other grow. when you have kids, you look at life differently. That's what I hear from lot of parents. It's like a relearning process. you know.

Kristin (39:32.11)
Yeah, I don't know if I'm up for that relearning process. You know, the kids one. I'm like, that's something I'm like, ugh. Yeah, little ones.

The what?

Josh Brinkman (39:43.399)
It's... It's fine.

Yeah, my aunt actually the other day said something about, know, I recently, I could also share this. I recently found out I have a sister that I didn't know about. Okay. Yeah, and so my aunt, you know, pulled my, or had gone to visit my grandma and she had done ancestry and like pulled my mom aside and said something along the lines of I did ancestry. Someone came up to as either a niece or a half sister, but she came out as like,

I guess she was born after my grandfather died. So I was like, well, and then like you're doing that. I'm like, okay, it's most likely my dad's. I forget why I even said this, but it's also kind of in a way like a deja vu moment or an intuitive knowing moment. Cause I used to tell my mom all the time that I'm like, I wouldn't be surprised if I have it. It's always a sister. was like, if I have another half sister out there, like maybe in Germany or something when dad was in the military.

I mean, he was 6'5", motorcycle. could just see him having some rendezvous and leaving and not having any connections there. So I'm like, how much of this did I craft? then, so my mom called me up. She's like, yeah, Kristen, it's not Germany, but you were right. You possibly do have a half sister that you didn't know about. And I was like, what? And so I ended up doing Ancestry, even though I was like, do I want them to have my DNA?

And I did it and it came back as half sister or aunt. And so we had some conversations and it's like, yeah, it's a kind of, I kind of like, I like your term angel kiss. So to me, it's like a little angel kiss, a little, not necessarily deja vu per se exactly, cause I love those feelings too. And I love that descriptor of like, okay, we've seen the movie before and like, we know we're kind of, for me it's like, okay, I must be on track if I'm getting this deja vu moment. Or it's a, there's like a sense of alignment.

Kristin (41:38.062)
for me when I have those deja vu moments. But I was like, this is really interesting to come in. And it also feels like a gift from beyond, like my dad giving me another gift that I didn't know about.

Yeah, and do you think that, because I really believe in intuition and gut feelings, I mean, you also did speak in existence too, but it's also a feeling that you had and we're all energetically trading energy, you know? And so, through him,

you're still energetically aligning her, even from a distance, you know? So is there that pull right there? And you're just like, I have that feeling that she's there.

I don't know how, it's like kind of an on-duty moment for me because there's been so many times in my life where I didn't listen to my intuitive knowing or gut feeling or whatever pattern, whatever you want to call or assign to intuition, but this is kind of like, no, I definitely had that thought or that knowing from like way, way, way like 10, 15, 20 years ago. And so yeah, maybe there's something to do with like the genetics or DNA pool or.

some kind of core, I don't know what it is or, you know, there's a, I'm happy not knowing a lot of things. Like I wanna know, I have an insatiable curiosity, but like for me to say exactly what it is, I don't know. But there's definitely like some kind of tie and it's interesting to me like how much is like, when I think about arguments between like nature and nurture, I'm like, there's certain trait. I'm like, she's never been married. I've never been married. She's like,

Kristin (43:17.538)
certain qualities or I'm like, that's interesting. We kind of have similar perspectives on that or yeah, it's interesting. So we're gonna meet in July. So I'm pretty pumped about that. And it also gave me perspective too. She would have loved to have been in my dad's life for a day, a year, all that. And then so much of my perspective was, fuck, I only got in for 20 something years. And so it was just like this recalibrating

moment of I get to have a dad that I miss and appreciate the time that we did have together. And like a check my self moment too, because that's not her reality or pathway. And now she gets to learn about our dad through me and through my grandma and through my brother and through our family. But it's definitely a bittersweet moment for her too, to realize that, okay, the person I've longed to know my entire life, you her mom told her that her dad was someone else.

has already passed. And so it's just interesting. like, there's, so there's like different awarenesses or ahas that have come through already too.

And with that, mean, you know, you get to relive all those memories. You know, that's a moment for you too. it's going to be a comfort for her.

I mean, we've already chatted like two or three hours. She's like, so tell me about him. I'm like, he's stubborn as fuck. You know how to the phone. I had it on speaker. You know? I'm like, don't know why I still go to... And she's like, I'm so stubborn. And I'm like, me too. He's the only person that I know that's more stubborn than me. I was like, I remember arguing about where we were going to lunch one time. And I was like, no, I want to go to this restaurant. He's like, no, I want to go to this restaurant. We went to his restaurant.

Josh Brinkman (45:03.854)
Of course.

Yeah, yeah. And so, yeah, it's just really interesting. So I'm excited to see where it all go too.

Life is crazy. Life's so weird. Like, there's moments I'm like, are we, like, in a matrix?

I know. I'm like, how much of that did I craft? Because it was a story I told myself for so long. But all those things had to align before that story even came into my field of awareness. They had to do the whole, Whatever it was.

the whole thing.

Josh Brinkman (45:41.43)
shit.

I mean, she didn't just pop out of the thing. I'm like, there was, yeah. So maybe there is like that chord thing. I don't know, but it's so cool to ponder. Yeah. I'm like, what other rabbit holes can we go down?

my gosh, like there's so many. But you know, we just have full of twists and turns in this life and you know, it me anymore. swear. No, at all shocks me. Yeah.

for sure. Definitely. Really?

Kristin (46:16.78)
Yeah, I'm like, have you had a lot of shock shocking moments in life? We're like, okay, it's just kind of recalibrated that or

Growing up gay, yeah, you definitely have a lot of moments, especially with like straight guys. That story could go on.

How did you come? Yeah, if you don't mind sharing or I don't know how much you want to share I mean like about that moment that you came out or I mean

I've known since I was in pre-K, I swear. I remember I was trying to impress a little boy on a tree. I was in pre-K and I'm trying to be cute. I got my arm rested up on a tree and he's over there looking and I get bit by ants and I'm like, This is what I get. I grew up in a very religious home and in private school most of my life.

So

Josh Brinkman (47:05.548)
I think religion was the most taxing time mentally for me because I mean, you're just getting pound with like, you know, you're going here in the afterlife and you're gonna suffer and you know, you just have this full demise to look forward to, but it's like, you know, nothing that you can change. It's just like talking to someone that has a straight mindset. It'd be like trying to like convert them, you know, like that's truly, they like their opposite sex. It's like,

You're not into that. You're not into your same sex, you know? And it's just like someone that's, you know, like me, just interested in guys. It's, I just, I have no interest in women whatsoever. And just, you know, I look at people as we're all human and we're in energy. And you can definitely tell when someone, you can just be within feats of them. And

the energy's off. You know they're gonna be bad energy or they're gonna be good energy. overall, mean, it was a whole era of just dealing with like, quote unquote, straight guys. you know, dated here, dated there, been married, divorced, and you know, just once.

Mary just wanted certain experiences. then, you know, well, it's like your soul signed up for a big adventure to plop you down in like, right, in a conservative Bible belt area. it's like you had the big britches on, right? So like, was it challenge? At what point did you come out to your family or people?

I was working at BCBG Max Asria and this was in like 2012, I'd say. And I developed a really strong girl group and I had, you know, one other friend from high school and she's been a strong, solid friend for me. And I've had just a lot of strong female friends. And it was then, I mean, like I had...

Josh Brinkman (49:21.038)
I think I said I was like bi during that time and I knew, I knew well, there's no way. But I really give a lot of credit to having strong friends and you know, they're female friends and they were just really strong and I had a strong mom growing up and I've just had a lot of strong females and so it was just from then on, know, I just went with it. haven't.

I haven't had it as hard as most people had, but it was more relationship-hard ships that I had. you know, get led on here or, you know, lying, cheating. It's just I'm not talking about anyone specific. It's just universally that's kind of like what I dealt with. you know, but I don't stay in the negative long and I just keep pushing forward. And anything that

has been like a hardship for me, has fueled me to do better. So, I always make sure I go above and beyond, like, whether it was with an ex that did me wrong or, you know, I had some troubles with certain individuals in school and I'm like, I'm in the right. I'm like, I'm gonna keep on pushing forward and you're gonna see me doing better.

It sounds like you stay true to yourself too. What was I gonna say? you you saying that you have a good like female base of friendships. I love like my gay guy friends. Because I feel like I get like a little bit of that, you know, that masculine energy and like they don't wanna sleep with me or fuck me. Like they don't, so it's like an, it's just a beautiful relationship where can just breathe and like express whatever it's all, you know, it usually tends to be to me.

just like more authentic, like free-flowing, unapologetic, I don't know. just love or have loved or had beautiful relationships in that capacity.

Josh Brinkman (51:27.454)
One here, I mean, we can easily go into the direction of masculine and feminine energy. gay guys are typically more into their feminine energy. And we all have it. We all have masculine and feminine energy. And it's like finding the balance. Usually in women, it's the feminine urge to, or energy.

Yeah, for sure.

Kristin (51:42.008)
Yeah.

Josh Brinkman (51:52.878)
to care and be soft and the masculine energy is guardian and protective. And you know, it's, that's another area of finding balance like we were talking at the beginning. And you know, those are balance when you're with your people, you know? So whether that be like a significant partner, a close friend or family member, you know, it's just.

Like sense of ease. I definitely have, like I remember having an epiphany, like I was like, oh shit, my masculine energy was serving as my protector or shield for my feminine energy for so long. And it was like, oh fuck, I didn't realize. Yeah, so it's like that softening and surrendering and being. And I love my like sensual yumminess too that helps me lean into more of that like softer feminine.

energy.

It's nice. I like to lean in more to like the feminine side because like I'm always in my masculine energy, just very, know, tough shell and but I do have a soft center and it's just a matter of who gets access to it.

That's a good point. Being discerning about who gets access. I've had to recently even just like kind of give some like strong boundaries. And it's like, okay, not everybody gets access to my energy or.

Josh Brinkman (53:23.662)
You have to put your

Josh Brinkman (53:30.286)
Cause then they see that side of you and then he could be a stepping rug for them. You know?

Our teaching moment, a friend of mine said, as I told her the story of setting a stronger boundary with someone, she's like, and then you give them permission to do the same or show them in a different way. I was like, yeah, we'll see it like that. Yeah? Yeah, but who knows? It's like those little catalyst moments. I'm like, OK. Oh, OK, I want to get to our lightning round. Oh, lightning round. know, yeah. Well, love. So Boudreaux's middle name is Lightning. That's my dog.

I was like, I wanna have like some fun, like no thinking, just like whatever questions. Loves it. And so there's like, yeah, so we'll just like kind of lightning fire some of these out. Let me take a little sip of my coffee too. Do it. right. Sunrise or moonlight?

Josh Brinkman (54:31.532)
Sunrise. What about you?

It's usually easier for me to stay up for the moonlight. But I like the promise of a sunrise, like a new beginning. I've definitely been one that I've like romanticized my yesterdays. So I like the idea and promise of tomorrows or like the visions of future. And that's what kind of what I associate with sunrise. Okay, more pleasure and more peace.

doesn't pleasure come with peace?

Yeah. Yes, they can be and.

That's a vast little topic.

Kristin (55:13.94)
Yeah, I'm like, pleasure does bring me peace.

It's like a food coma, there's peace, sex, it's like peace, I'm just like...

Yeah. Yes, I get so much pleasure in food. I'm like, yes. Okay, spontaneity or structure.

my gosh, this is so tough. You said I wasn't supposed to be thinking. I'm thinking a lot.

Josh Brinkman (55:47.106)
Both.

I think that goes back to balance too. It does.

I'm a Gemini, so I think of both, I'm for both.

what's your big three? This isn't my part of my lightning round, but I'm curious about your big three. All right, now we'll come back to that on or off air, because that gives people a lot of insight into you. I have a Gemini rising though, so I'm like, Gemini. Okay, what's one thing that instantly brings you back to center?

one thing that instantly brings me back to center.

Josh Brinkman (56:25.006)
that I have.

I have good intent to be here for others. And I have a purpose. What about you?

I love that.

Or, insulin brings me back to center, taking a deep breath, just like a...

Just like feels like that settles or drops me into my being. Or yeah, if it's like, if I'm like kind of squirrel mode, yeah, taking a deep breath or like centering my attention on something. Sometimes it's like those, okay, what am I seeing? Drop me back in my body from not being so much in my mind. I'm like, what am I hearing? What am I tasting? What am I smelling? So just kind of walking me through like a sensory grounded meditation or like kind of just like, okay, what's working for me?

Kristin (57:18.444)
I'm so hyper focused on this one thing, what's going on that's working or like, what can I celebrate? Stuff like that. That's not one thing, kind of deviate. This one is like, what throws you way out of balance? I definitely have mine, go.

What throws me way out of balance.

Josh Brinkman (57:42.934)
you do not do someone wrong, that has been right in doing good to you. Yeah, I've had a few of those moments, whether in school or work and doesn't settle well with me, you know, but the truth always surfaces and karma always comes full force. And you don't want to wish bad on anyone, but karma happens.

Yeah, I wear a bunny shirt that says karma doesn't miss. I swear when I wear that shirt, I get treated better. People are more aware of their karma. Yeah, what now? Throws me out of balance sleep, like if I don't get enough of it. Like if my sleep schedule is off or wanky, I'm like, I feel more off or like just kind of like.

Cheers.

Josh Brinkman (58:35.694)
And there's a book called Why Do We Sleep? It's great. Downsleep and just how important sleep is. And it's for everyone. And it messes up with your mental clarity, your immune, your productivity. You know, all of it. All of your life, it can really affect that. Making sure you're just getting adequate sleep.

Okay, yeah.

Kristin (58:57.262)
Yeah, it's a bit huge for me. Some are seven to 10 girly. Happiest moment that you can remember, Yeah, there's so many.

Happiest moment.

have a recent one. Oh yeah, share a recent my mom is the most selfless person. got a little tick on my throat. Excuse me. The last Christmas, I run out of things to get her because I've gotten her everything that she's like, low-key said that she wanted, but she'll never buy it for herself. So I bought her like a sapphire earring and you know, a diamond necklace, just little things that I know she'll never buy. But then this Christmas, like,

what am gonna do? And so she was showing me this picture of her as a little girl and it's like in the 1950s and my mom grew up really poor and her dad did everything to support five kids and so you know them having Christmas was a big deal and there was a little teddy bear that she was holding one of her pictures and she was so excited. She's a little girl, she's like a toddler and I had like a big satin bow on it so I was like okay let me try to find that.

And so I found a similar bear. I went and got the satin bow and I did it up. And that was a happy moment for me, like seeing that. And she was just ecstatic.

Kristin (01:00:21.08)
That's like for her and her like little inner girl or inner child that bring... That's so sweet and thoughtful. Yeah. Yeah. Happiest moment I can remember. I mean, I do think it's a practice and a ritual. And so I tend to like find those little moments too. Like freaking walking, I mean, just earlier today, walking Boudreaux to take the trash out. I'm just like looking at him or I'll throw something for him. And I'll be like...

What about you?

Kristin (01:00:49.651)
How did I ever have a life without you, buddy?

And it's simple moments like that too. mean, like there's so many definitions of happiness, you know?

Yeah, I mean, like for real, like the energy shift and just having him in my place has been like, wow, I didn't realize that I needed some life in this place. Yeah, this one is okay. Let's I already answered that one. This is like, what's your joy jam, song snack or soul ritual?

Hmm hmm.

Kristin (01:01:23.8)
Song, snack, or soul, Rachel. Yeah, your joy can.

I really love music and if I need like an extra energy boost, it's music. Griffin?

Any ghostly song? Okay, I don't know if I know that one. Okay.

He's, it's the artist. And all of his music is, you know who Caigua is. So on that same kind of page and really uplifting and upbeat and it's usually like house cleaning music or just like go get her music and you're to have like the best day ever.

Cool. Now we can listen to some Griffin after this. We were going to have a dance party to start, but copyright. Okay. What's more powerful, discipline or devotion?

Josh Brinkman (01:02:16.258)
Discipline. Discipline, it'll help in all areas and that'll help with whatever you're devoting to. know, like if we go the angle of like a relationship, be in discipline to.

You know.

Josh Brinkman (01:02:38.292)
know that you're respecting this person because you're devoting yourself to that person. There's disciplines of just not cheating or it could be easily as like not leaving anywhere on the floor. It's because you're devoting yourself to that person or whatever.

and like making common agreements. I love the word devotion, but discipline has definitely helped me in certain aspects. Like whether I'm gonna be, you know, devoted to my writing practice or I love the word devotion and then infusing my actions with it. But they are, like, feel like they can be somewhat interchangeable. Okay, a couple more. And then I want you to just drop whatever you wanna leave people with. Sure.

I feel most alive when...

I most alive when I've helped someone grow. that's a great feeling. And you know, like they either had a rough past or having rough times and you have grown, you know, and like, we're all here to help each other or what are all of us and millions and billions of people here for? You know, we need each other. So helping people grow.

of that.

Josh Brinkman (01:04:04.396)
Level up. Mm-hmm.

Okay, what's the weirdest thing that's ever made you happy?

Weirdest thing that's made me happy. You go first.

Okay, there's a- Weirdest thing that's ever made me happy? Why do I think of food? Kind because I'm hungry right now, but like probably some like weird concoction of food. mean, I love, I mean like salty and sweet things together. So I've dipped french fries in ice cream before. That's kind of weird or I mean, whatever weird. I feel like I'm kind of weird, so. Yeah, I'm like.

We are a little weird.

Kristin (01:04:47.31)
Any of the woo-woo spiritual, you know, or what is considered woo-woo, I don't find it to be woo-woo. And so, but that can be considered weird in some context. Weirdest thing, I love like sacred sexuality and those kind of like, you know, sex magic rituals or those kind of shamanic type of practices. So those can seem weird, but they're not weird to me. Yeah.

would say what I was talking about not long ago of using negative situations to help me level up. It's my fuel. it's like a, I guess a guilty pleasure. Let's say like in my dental program I was in, the main professor and I had it out for each other. Can't stand her.

Haha

Josh Brinkman (01:05:43.764)
she just made it so difficult on so many students. She just had like this pedestal, she's up on a pedestal. We had an out in clinic once and almost got kicked out of the program. And it was like my choice of whether or not to, you know, stay or, or, you know, exit. I use that as fuel and I'm like, I was the president of the class. And so I'm like, no.

you're gonna watch me walk across that stage. So that was like a weird little pleasure.

hell yeah.

Kristin (01:06:20.398)
if someone tells me that I can't do something, I definitely love using that as fuel. But I love that reframe. It's like, okay, no. I may have to bite my tongue in one instance, but I'm like, you're going to watch me walk across the stage or get, I love that. It's like the greater victory. Okay, this one is, if happiness were a person, how would they walk into a room?

Josh Brinkman (01:06:51.406)
They see you for your flaws and all or not any, and they just say, you and accept you as is. You know, they're not trying to change you. I like to say like me in a relationship, I love like a mom and like I was raised by a mom, so I how to love like a mom. And it's like that your mom like just, you know, generally just loves you, you know, unconditionally and it's like that.

You know, loving someone just for who they are. Because everyone's so quick to judge these days, you know. Or break you down, you know. Like why? What's that point? It's just showing your own insecurities when you're breaking someone else down.

that feeling.

Kristin (01:07:30.754)
I lead with

Kristin (01:07:37.806)
For sure. always think about, if they're judging this forward with something, how harshly are they judging themselves? Why are they going to wrangle or wrestle as they're laying down at night to sleep? That's a good point. Yeah, I'm like, happiness were person, yeah, it'd be like authenticity. so it just depends on who's walking through that room. If the happiness is coming in with that person, it could be a strut. It could be a...

any peaceful glide in, could be, yeah, but I like the feeling of the peace, ease, fulfillment, kind like what you said, talked about earlier about purpose and giving back. And so I love those like fulfilling things too. like, just like a, yeah, there's some kind of confidence or inner knowing or trust, maybe an element of trust too. Definitely trust. Yeah. For me right now, I'm like, that's how.

My happiness walks into the room as trusting.

because that's a hard thing to rebuild, is stress.

Yeah. And for me, it's like those moments where I haven't trusted other people. I'm like, okay, could I have trusted myself in certain moments? And then showing up where I tell myself, help build some of that self-trust. What do you want to leave people or drop in before we... Oh, shit. We went over a little bit. Oh, well.

Josh Brinkman (01:09:01.966)
We're not done. There's more to come. We have plenty of other topics. This is great. This is a pleasure.

I know,

I loved having you have such a like a grounded essence and presence. You helped bring my... settle my squirrel. Cause I feel like a ping pong ball today. But we're accepting of my ping pong balls today.

You

Josh Brinkman (01:09:21.152)
Thank God

Josh Brinkman (01:09:27.122)
Way to go, you got me to tear up.

You do. I just feel like I feel settled and just great. We've got we're able to meet in person and like do this and yeah more to come for sure I've been like admiring you and just loving following your journey from afar. So you've had a fan. Yeah, I just hadn't Yeah, like I'm like

I've been a fan from a distance too. Love the love and light and I think we both reciprocate and have seen that.

Sure. And I'll put your Instagram handle in the bio too if you people want to like connect with you. Awesome. And thanks for tuning in to another episode of Sex, Drugs, and All. mean, Seoul. Sex, Drugs, and Seoul. And staying to the bitter end. Apparently I need my caffeine. Toodles.

Love it.