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77. Sex Work, Modern Dating, & the Madonna-Whore Complex: A Peek Inside the Male Psyche with Sexologist Coral Osborne

June 09, 2025 • Kristin Birdwell • Season 3 • Episode 14

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In this episode of Sex, Drugs, and Soul, I chat with certified sexologist Coral Osborne. Our paths crossed in Austin at various events, and I've been impressed by her advocacy for men and the valuable insights she shares online on topics such as dating, intimacy, and authentic relating. We also share stories from our lived sex work experiences and how they have informed our views on intimacy, personal growth, and relationships.

We explore everything from the Madonna-Whore complex, eroticizing trauma, and self-inquiry to why men often seek out sex workers, how childhood informs our relationships, and the subtle ways we deflect vulnerability, like making vulgar jokes to avoid being seen.

If you find yourself feeling disheartened about modern dating, confused by relationship dynamics, or curious about intimacy drivers and lived sex work experiences delivered in a no-BS style, give this one a go.

00:00 - Introduction
02:08 - Exploring Personal Turn-Ons
04:04 - Navigating Radical Honesty and Vulnerability
05:46 - The Impact of Past Experiences on Sexuality
09:06 - Understanding Men's Core Desires and Wounds
11:50 - The Madonna-Whore Complex in Male Psychology
14:58 - Self-Inquiry for Emotional Availability
18:06 - Dating in the Modern Age: Apps vs. Real Life
20:46 - Polarity and Gender Dynamics in Relationships
25:04 - Navigating Modern Dating Dynamics
28:03 - The Complexity of Receiving and Giving
30:30 - Understanding Masculinity and Emotional Needs
32:56 - Childhood Influences on Adult Relationships
40:23 - Addressing Common Sexual Struggles
47:20 - Upcoming Projects and Resources

Connect with Coral:
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Stay tuned for her podcast that launches in July!

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